I just thought this would be “lala another finale where the Doctor dies and then comes back and Clara does a thing etc. etc.”
no one told me it was going to be thE END OF THE RELATIONSHIP I’VE LOVED SINCE MY FIRST DOCTOR WHO EPISODE AND THE INSPIRATION FOR THE TUMBLR ICON I’VE LITERALLY ALWAYS HAD
It’s not the end! The River we see is post-library River, talking from the Library’s computer. Pre-library River is STILL OUT THERE.
Right, but post-Library!River didn’t remember Clara at the conference call. So either River was once again pretending not to know somebody to avoid spoilers, or River really never met Clara before. If the latter, then that would mean that River doesn’t show up again, at least not while Clara is still a companion.
Either way, it was the end of the relationship for River. The Doctor may still meet younger Rivers in his future, but this was goodbye for her, and for him it was goodbye to the only River who knew the full extent of their lives together.
So in that sense it was the end of my favorite relationship. =(
As far as the first paragraph goes: the Doctor does not travel with Clara for long stretches of time like he did the Ponds. He picks her up, they have an adventure, he takes her home the same day. There’s plenty of time for the Doctor to encounter River in-between and after without her meeting Clara - but if she had met Clara she’d try to avoid spoilers and distress for Clara, just like she did with Donna. To me, River clearly knows who Clara is because she says the Doctor’s name; River knows what is inside the tomb, River knows what is at stake, and River would never sacrifice the Doctor for anyone. She would never have conceded at the end of The Wedding of River Song if she didn’t know the Doctor was going to survive it, and that would have cost every life in the universe.
As far as the second, I just can’t see it that way. By that measure, the relationship has been over since the character was introduced. River and the Doctor got closure in a way that was really quite beautiful. River’s last memory of The Doctor isn’t of a man who doesn’t know her, doesn’t love her, and isn’t her husband. It’s a man who is ultimately willing to undergo the deepest pain he knows to give her what she needs.
So, I just can’t be sad.